Joy and Standing on your Head


Today’s is a quick, down and dirty challenge. I’m offering it to you because of how valuable it was to me.

Stand on your head! Do it now. Put down your cell phone or turn your back on your computer and go do a headstand. There are many ways to do this safely and to support your neck so that you avoid any injury or strain. The important thing is to DO IT, as Shia LeBoef says.

The blood that flows to your head will reduce lethargy and anxiety, allowing you to return to the important actions of your day with renewed HAPPINESS.



On Happiness and Perseverance


What is perseverance?

Until this moment, I thought I knew. Now, I am seeing something I never noticed before: it is the word “severance” in perseverance. Typically, this is the moment I would geek out on for forty-five minutes researching the etymology of perseverance. If I’m lucky. I might tailspin for an hour and a half, which is why my partner jokingly and lovingly calls me “Protoindoeuropean” as a nickname. Not that I mind; in fact, I am flattered.

Instead of going down that rabbit hole of tasty factoids, I’m going to do a test and show you here that understanding comes from the “inside-out” just as happiness does.

Perseverance contains the word “severance.” To sever. to cut away. I don’t think its a coincidence that I am writing about this the day after a Virgo full moon, which, my astrologically inclined homies have alerted me, is a great time to cut away the fat. So perhaps to preserver is more about CUTTING OUT things than ADDING things. In other words, perseverance is REDUCTIVE, or SUBTRACTIVE, and not additive. This calls to mind “FOCUS,” which makes me think of using a camera. A camera lens can only see so much at one time. The rest is unseen and unused. It is ignored. We are severed from it by the boundary of the photograph.

Perseverance is a quality I am eager to develop in myself. Why? Well for one thing, the sheer volume (or lack thereof) of this blog. I have scores of ideas and volumes to say on many different subjects, and I often blab about them to my S.O. instead of sitting my butt down in the chair and building something with my passion.


I have a tendency to be ruled by my emotions and fly by the seat of my pants. I know that that is why I have the problems I do and why I am not as happy as I could be. It is why I am not the parter I want to be, and why I’m not quite ready to have kids.

Perseverance means to sever myself from the emotional impulses that stop me from doing my work.

When I put my nose to the grindstone and do what I set out to do, I feel so much better. HAPPIER! And creating more happiness is not only what The Inside-Out is all about.

I see this now. I see that I need to cut out distractions, and that my emotions are a major distraction. I also recognize that my intelligence is a distraction that needs to be cut out, as well. Why?

Let’s just say that as a teenager, I didn’t study very much. I thought I was so subversive because I would put off assignments ’til the last night, or because I would barely study for a test and then get to school in the morning and CRAM for it (and get mostly A’s doing so).

Maybe that was because I lived in a chaotic household and it was hard to focus. More on that in another post.

Anyway, the behavior I was exhibiting was exactly what the system wanted. I felt my ego swell at “succeeding” despite careful preparation. This made the whole silly game pleasurable to me. It made me like it, because it made me feel like a winner, when the only thing I was winning was a pat on the back for playing the game.

At this point in my life, the battles I am fighting are not busy-work tests who’s purpose is to shape a willing workforce. It is a whole new battle for independence, and it can only be won through careful preparation.

I am ready for that challenge.




Happiness Through The Gut: Take Probiotics!



It is said by many people that the gut, comprised by the stomach and the intestines, is the second brain. As such, it contains many nerves. It picks up on changes in the environment. Of our surroundings, and of our thoughts. When we feel nervous, or excited, we feel it there. When we “get a bad feeling” about someone, in real  life or in a movie, isn’t that where you feel it?

Not to get poetic, but its almost as if we are TASTING in reverse: normally, we taste food in our mouth and then process it in our guts. When it comes to feelings, or KNOWINGS, we process it in our gut first, and then taste it in our mouths in the form of words (spoken or unspoken).

The stomach reacts to our emotions. Many people get tummy aches when they’re upset. Later in life, this can develop into more severe stomach problems such as acid reflux.

Digestive issues can be linked to happiness, as well. If you can’t process your feelings, it is difficult to process your food. And vice versa!

The most hopeful aspect of all this is that by taking better care of our guts, we become happier, healthier people.

That means take your probiotics. These have been proven to help with overall health and happiness. This article explains how to do that in depth.

The Fasting Method

It also means paying attention to how you respond to different foods. Some foods might make you grumpy, and you don’t even realize it!


The best way to figure this out is the fasting method. Pick a time when you don’t have too many responsibilities and you don’t have to do physical labor. And please please, talk to your doctor first.

  1. Taper off of toxins (Sugar, caffeine, alcohol, cigarettes)
    1. This can take several days to a week. It is important to taper off of these powerful chemicals BEFORE the fast. If you do not, your body will likely be overwhelmed by the withdrawal from chemicals and food and you will not feel well at all.
  2. Taper off of meat, processed carbohydrates and cooked foods
    1. This can be done in 1-2 days.
    2. During this time, you can enjoy salads, fresh juices, and fruit
  3. No more food!
    1. For 3 to 14 days, depending on your health and according to what your doctor says is safe, drink only water.

That is the fast! Simple to say, challenging to do. Rewarding, as well.

When you begin to reincorporate food, begin with very simple food that are not typically allergens. Concentrate on the food as you eat it, and concentrate on how it makes you feel. I recommend keeping a DETAILED JOURNAL during this process, which will typically last about a week. It might sound like a lot of work, but if you’re going to go to the trouble to fast, you might as well follow through with the process and learn all there is to learn.

In your journal, note how you feel…

  • after 5 minutes
  • after an hour
  • after 3 hours
  • after 12 hours
  • after 24 hours.

Some feeling might include: Happy, Sad, Angry, Nervous, Excited, Grateful, Calm, Blissful, Sleepy, Spacey, Confused, Strong, Horney, Energized, Heavy, Light, Hungry, Somber, Focused, Afraid, Wise, Beautiful.

It is wise to plan ahead the schedule for introducing potential allergens back into your diet. If you introduce two allergens at the same time, you won’t know which one is causing which reaction. So take it slow, plan it out, get support from a doctor and a nutritionist, pay close attention to your feelings and write them down.

Then, use what you learned to eat differently going forth.  Eat foods that will help you be happy, and always remember to include those fermented foods. When you can’t, take a probiotic.

PS Drink lots of water!!!!!



Happiness Through A Spiritual Committee


One of the keys we have found to sustaining happiness from the inside out is by getting in help.

Help can have many forms: reading books, going to lectures, calling a friend.
In this article, we are going to talk about talking with a chosen group of individuals, dead or alive, to whom you ask for help and support. They are a group that you form and then continue to get to know over the course of a lifetime, adding or subtracting members as you see fit.


One example of a committee:

  • -Batman
  • -Ghandi
  • -A Cheetah
  • -Your Great Grandmother
  • -Abraham
  • -Audrey Hepburn

Now, this is a fictional assemblage of individuals. I have my own group, but I do not feel it is necessary to reveal my most intimate secrets. At least not yet.


What comes next?

Well, you can decide who you want to call upon and when. For example, if you are walking to your car from the grocery store and it is late at night and you have a feeling you are being followed, call on Batman! Say,


“Batman! I have a funny feeling I’m in danger! Get over here and get between me and anyone who might hurt me!”


Then, you can thank him.

Of course, this is no substitute for using caution and good sense. It is used when necessary.


Here is another example: You are attending an important meeting. The individuals with whom you are meeting are successful, wealthy and very social. Perhaps you are not used to such environments. As you enter the room, you need not enter alone. You can call on Audrey Hepburn to hold your elbow, give you meaningful looks, whisper in your ear the hints of how to handle unexpected moments.


While specific instances such as the two above are good examples about what I’m talking about, the greatest benefit of this practice comes when a person steadfastly interviews the full cast on a daily basis. This of course is meant for those people who are in a regular state of suffering; if you already feel fulfilled and in perfect harmony, such regular discourse might not be necessary.


In summary, consider what you need assistance or support with and choose anyone who has ever lived or been written to help you. Your attention will give their presence meaning, and in turn they will take on lives of their own in service of your highest good.


The Inside Out


Hello. Welcome to the inside out. This is a site that will discuss happiness, which comes from the inside out. Each week, or perhaps more frequently, we will publish an article with one modality in which people say they achieve happiness. It is our goal to provide tools for happiness and arrows towards inspiration.


Having once been in the business of researching crime and law enforcement, we reached a point where the mental toxicity from such subjects was affecting our health. We experienced numbness to the violence on the news. Then we decided to change. We stopped watching anything containing violence. We stopped watching the news.


Did we mention we retired?

Not retiring like giving up, but it is hard for most people to understand “career change” when involving people over the age of seventy. However, that is the fact, and it is our goal to submit the contents of this study as entry to a PhD program in psychology.


This is likely to be a challenge, because we went to college for Journalism back in the Stone Age and have not had any further education since. Well, not if you include a rich career in writing, producing, researching and business. Alas, most admissions boards do not.